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Mentoring - Part 2



Your Mentor & the Holy Spirit

You must come to understand that the Holy Spirit has his own place in your life irrespective of the mentor he has placed over your life. You must be careful not to replace Him with your mentor. Everything that your mentor will ever teach you will be from him, and anything you learn from your mentor, which does not relate to your personal dealings with the Holy Spirit through the word of God, must not be accepted by you. 

John 16:13
Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.  

The investment of the Holy Spirit and your mentor in your life is co – teamwork. The Holy Spirit will need your mentor to relate with you on some issues while your mentor will also need the Holy Spirit to relate with you on some certain issues. Both the Holy Spirit and your Mentor must work hand in hand to bring to the place of maturity as a son that is ready to fulfill destiny.

The Holy Spirit and your Mentor has one tool they use in building, teaching, guiding, rebuking, correcting, and instructing you with; that tool is the word of the Father that contains the detail plans, and specification of His Purpose for your existence on earth.

Galatians 4:1
Now I say, That the heir, as long as he is a child, differeth nothing from a servant, though he be lord of all; But is under tutors and governors until the time appointed of the father.  

The tutors and governors are the mentors and Father in the Lord

Learning to know when to turn to the Holy Spirit and when to turn to your mentor is a great deal you must learn. Less I forget, it is not everything that you open up to your mentor. If you must open up to your mentor, it must be base on instruction from the Holy Spirit. This is not lack of trust towards him but it does imply that there are principles that must be obeyed. For the fact that your mentor is loyal to you and interested in your constant growth does not mean you have to break this principle. In God’s kingdom, we follow instructions. 

There are issues that the Lord will not reveal to your mentor no matter his or her maturity. The Lord will only reveal some details about your life, vision and mission to him base on what he must do in your life. He will only be permitted to know things according to the assignment the Lord has assigned for him to carry out in your life. Nothing outside his assignment must be made known to him. He or she (mentor) must be matured and sensitive enough to refer you to the people that carry the Grace that can solve some issues in your life that He or she does not carry or posses. You must come to understand that your mentor does not in any way own you. He or she is only a caretaker and he must be able to allow you to fulfill the area of God’s plan in your life. He or she (mentor) must come to understand that they do not know it all and they must strive to be constantly sensitive to God’s operation in your life in order for them, to move according to the pace of God’s operation in your life.
The disadvantage of them not moving, and relating with you according to the paces of God’s operation in your life is this; there will be misunderstandings between them and you. You will be trying to take steps and experience the current revelations given to you in the closet (personal relationship with the Holy Spirit/word) while they will be viewing and expecting you to function according to the previous revelation you have received. Even you too must learn to do the same; you have to be constantly improving, and learning the current move of God’s operation in their lives, this will help you not to have misunderstandings with them due to your inconsistency to the move of God in their lives.

You must also come to understand that they do not own you anything. Every training and discipline you are enjoying from them is a platform of Grace to you. For the fact that they are your mentor does not mean they must have all the answers to your questions or problem. You are not here to be a liability to them. This is the reason why you have the Holy Spirit in and with you. Your mentors are not your bank (where they must pay for everything you need). Any help from them to you must be instruction based (Holy Spirit) because they must also give you room to be responsible, and accountable to the Holy Spirit. Some times, there must watch you use you faith without their effort. There must some time watch you suffer in some situation in order for you to be stretched into more maturity.

As for provision, you must learn to know the needs in your life that your mentor can handle. You must learn to also know the provision that the Holy Spirit has been placed to provide for your life. In this place come the importance of you knowing the calling and vision of God in the life of your mentor’s life. The more you understand His or her calling in God, the better you will understand the provisions the Lord has made available in him or her for your life. Likewise also, the more you understand whom God is and what he wants to do in your life, the better you will understand the provision God has provided for you.

The fact that the Lord has given you a mentor does not mean you will stop looking unto Jesus the Author, and the finisher of your faith. You are not expected to trust your mentor more than the Holy Spirit Himself. Your mentor is just a channel made available for you to be able to learn and grow faster. Your mentor does not have any prove or authority to Lord over your life but He has the right to discipline you but you must understand that all must be word base.

Your Mentor & His Faults
Praise the Lord! 

I know this spot in the journey of faith is the aspect that really took me time to learn as a mentee. For the fact that the Lord has made them like coverings over your life, calling and ministry, you must learn to know that they are also humans like you, and I. If you are expecting your mentor to be an angel that has no mistakes then you will never grow in Faith. Read this, without the faults or mistakes in the lives of your mentors, you have no license to learn from them. We are all looking unto Jesus the Author and the Finisher of our faith. Just as you are in the growing process in your journey of Faith with God, so are they too in their own journey of Faith. They are not super hero; they are men that are operating through Grace. We are all walking towards perfection, and you must learn that He or She is also a student learning to be more matured.

Genesis 2:15
And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it

From the scriptures above, you must come to the knowledge that ministry and the journey of Faith is all about dressing and keeping. The faults and imperfections you see your mentor are victories they have gain in their journey of faith. To every generation a higher assignment is given and a higher demand for perfection is given. Therefore, the imperfections you are seeing are their own victories. They are imperfect to you because God has kept in you a higher demand for perfection, God created you to be better in those areas of their weaknesses, and our heavenly Father is expecting you to dress their faults, and keep it for your own mentee or the next generation. In other words, God is expecting you to hand over to them (next generation) a better gospel than the gospel you met on ground.  

It is not given to you judge them, and gossip about them. They are only accountable to God and if the Holy Spirit is asking you to correct them then you must receive specific instruction on how to do that. It is not a platform for you to insult them, and disrespect them. In fact, their fault holds the details of the future battles you will soon confront. Their faults are the details that should channel you to question the Holy Spirit in other for you to learn how to overcome in your coming days. Their faults carries the map that will lead you into the specific assignment God is calling you to do according to the same area of assignment God has placed in the life of your mentor. Their faults are your own preparation ground for you to develop, improve, and grow in wisdom.

If you see that your mentor is bad in certain area, it means God has wants to learn from that area in other for you to be good. If you see that your mentor good in certain area, it means God has brought you to learn from him to be better than Him. If you see that your mentor is better in certain area, it means God want you to learn from him in order for you, to have an excellent spirit. Why these entire pattern works is; the best way to learn how to do something dwells in you, but some times you knowing how not to go about it. If you can observe to know why they fail in those areas then, you will learn what you must do and what to avoid. Seeing them not perfect does not implies that they are not fulfilled in their assignment in their God, it does implies that their assignments in God was strong enough to birth into you a reason to run the race of your own assignment in your own God.

The major reason why I love my mentors and Father in the Lord is this; any time I discovery their fault, it leads me into discovering my own self better and it makes me see my assignment clearer. It helps me to identify the battles that lie ahead of me. It helps me to know how to prepare my self in advance. I have had several misunderstandings with my Father in the Lord. I had misunderstanding with him for like three times and The Lord helped me to reconcile with him during those times. Whenever I see one fault in him, it hurts me; I get angry till the Lord opened my eyes to see that, I was the problem. I was not ready to learn and improve myself from the wisdom in the mistakes of my mentor. Since then, every fault I saw in him became the platform for me to discover myself better. I began to use them to view the clarity of my assignment. The third time, I experience understanding with my mentor and the Lord help me to reconcile back to Him, my eyes of understanding were opened and it became done on me that this is the will of God. If you have argued or left your mentor or your Father in the Lord in misunderstandings, look out for ways to settle your differences with them. There are experiences you will never be able to learn from any other person expect their live. Experience has taught me a hard lesson and I do not want you to be a victim of this reality. Some things are better caught than taught!

On the other hand, mentors must always remember where the Lord picked them from and how far the Lord has brought them in the area of their weaknesses. They must be ready to co-operate with the operations of God in the lives of their mentee. They must understand that their strength in the midst of the weaknesses of their mentee holds big inspiration to the lives of their mentee. Mentoring and mentee is teamwork. There is some thing the Lord wants to do in your life through your mentees and there is some thing the Lord will do in the lives of your mentees through you. You need them and they need you.

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