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A break-up is not the first thing to be considered in a relationship when red flags show up.

We don't love people because they have it all together. We love them because we've discovered the role we can play in their lives to make them better than we met then to the best of our capacity of effort.

A break up can only be gradually considered if one or both have done ALL in their capacity to make things work to no avail.

So just before you consider breaking up... Even if you may be dating or even married to a devil's advocate, ask yourself if you have done all that grace can empower you to do, to help make that person's life better.

Finally ask your self how well enough you have sincerely prayed for the person and you have realized that you can't carry the weight any longer especially if it's beginning to affect your calling and relationship with God.

You see, we give up on people quickly but then except some others to be more patient with us. This is nothing less of the definition of being SELFISH and selfishness has nothing to do with the subject of love. As a matter of fact, love is actually selfless.

The truth is that it takes maturity on a high level to even start a relationship in the first place. The first virtue one must possess after having Interest in a relationship with another person is the virtue of MAXIMUM TOLERANCE.

LOVE SHOULD BE MORE QUICK TO STAY THAT QUICK TO LEAVE.

If you must leave, please make sure you leave with something the person you're leaving should always be grateful to God for when you're thought of in the positive.

Not all love that start well ends well, but make sure your love made the other person much better than you met them.

I'm Prince Victor Matthew
Relationship and Capacity Advocate
& a relationship consultant

I hope reading this was worth your time.

HOPE EXPRESSION celebrates you.

#PrinceVictorMatthew

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