I knew a girl in college who had recently gotten married.   She was pretty young at the time, just barely out of her teen years.  But, according to her, she had met the love of her life.  They hadn’t dated for very long, but the chemistry between them was out of this world, she said.  They just had to get married, because they were burning with passion. In fact, now that they were married- they were having crazy, hot sex like five times a day.  She was just gushing about this new relationship, and this young man who had swept her off her feet.   On one hand, I was trying to wrap my brain around this relationship that had happened so fast - how well did they actually know each other?  How committed was this guy?  How did things progress to the point of marriage so fast?  But on the other hand, part of me was a little jealous.  This passionate relationship of hers was one that I longed for…from my perspective as a 20-year-old virg...

It’s been fun to watch the response, and I totally connect with those of you who’ve emailed me to ask: If this is the kind of person we shouldn’t date, then what kind of person should we date? The truth is, there’s absolutely no way to narrow down the kind of guy you SHOULD date into a few generic categories. And ultimately, the best relationships come when we learn to be healthy, confident, and secure even while standing alone. While there’s no such thing as finding the perfect guy, here are some traits to be on the lookout for (Godly Man) when the timing is right A guy whose in love with Jesus When a man is in love with Jesus, you can tell, because it overflows out of everything he says, does, and impacts how he lives his life. A man who is deeply connected with God’s Spirit He possess love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness and self-control, which are exactly the ingredients that a good relationship is made of. Wait for...

Dear Christian Single, I get it. Dating seems complicated. You flood my inbox every day with a list of your seriously legitimate (well…mostly) questions. How do I know if this is the one?   Is there even such thing as “the one”? Does God want me to be single? Is (insert name of your significant other) right for me? Should I ask him out or is that too forward? Which is better- dating or courtship? I read your questions, and I feel your struggle. Trust me; there was time in my life when I was just as confused as anyone else. I had no idea what to believe or where to start. And so I empathize with you, because part of the problem has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the culture we’ve created around dating and relationships in general. The “Christian culture” has done quite a number on this topic, hasn’t it? We’ve complicated it. We’ve added a ton of rules, and spread them with even more rules. We’ve taken pre...