One of the most underrated skills in relationships is listening. Many singles think love is all about talking, texting, or proving a point, but the strength of a relationship is often in the ability to truly hear one another. Listening goes beyond waiting for your turn to speak; it is paying attention to the heart behind the words. Proverbs 18:13 warns, “To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.” When you don’t listen, you miss the chance to understand the person you claim to love.
In dating, listening shows respect. It tells your partner, “Your thoughts and feelings matter to me.” Sometimes, the person you’re dating is not looking for you to fix their problem; they just want to know that you care enough to hear them. Listening creates safety, and safety builds trust. Without it, assumptions and misunderstandings become frequent visitors in the relationship.
When you practice listening, you train yourself to value understanding over argument. For example, instead of rushing to defend yourself when your partner expresses hurt, pause and ask, “Can you explain how that made you feel?” That simple act diffuses tension and draws you closer. Remember, good communication is not just about expressing yourself but also about receiving the other person’s expression.
Singles who master the art of listening build stronger, healthier dating relationships. Love thrives in an atmosphere of understanding, and understanding is impossible without listening. Before you think about what to say next, ask yourself: Have I really heard what they are trying to say?
Assessment
1. Do you often listen to understand, or do you listen just to respond?
2. How can you create more space in your conversations to allow your partner to fully express themselves?
3. What is one listening habit you can start practicing this week to improve your dating relationship?
Hope Expression Values You
Prince Victor Matthew
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