In relationships, especially during dating or courtship, words carry heavy weight. What you say in moments of excitement can build joy, but what you say in moments of frustration can leave wounds that take years to heal. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us that “a soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.” Learning to manage your tone and choice of words is one of the signs of maturity in relationships.
Singles and youths must learn that love is not proven by how quickly you react but by how wisely you respond. It is not enough to be right—you must also be kind. Healing speech allows you to communicate your feelings without tearing the other person apart. This skill will not only serve you in dating but also in your future marriage, friendships, and even ministry.
Harsh words may make you feel powerful for a moment, but they create deep cracks in trust and intimacy. Many relationships break not because of big betrayals, but because of the daily cuts from careless words. You have the choice: to be a builder with your words or a destroyer.
Speaking to heal requires self-control, humility, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. When you invite God into your speech, your words become instruments of grace. Instead of pushing people away, you draw them closer to love, safety, and growth.
Assessment:
Do my words in dating or friendship reflect love and patience, or do they wound?
When I’m upset, do I pause before speaking, or do I lash out?
Am I learning to express truth with kindness, especially in tense moments?
Prince Victor Matthew
Hope Expression Values You
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