Sexual value in a relationship is the discipline and purity you uphold concerning your body and desires. What is sexual value? It is the standard you place on how you honor God with your sexuality. Why is this important? Because sex is not just a physical act; it is a spiritual covenant designed for marriage. Who should care about sexual values? Both singles and those dating, because disregarding God’s design in this area can leave scars, regrets, and unnecessary baggage. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 reminds us, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality.”
How do you build sexual value? By setting boundaries, avoiding compromising environments, and renewing your mind with God’s Word. When do you start? Now, not when you are engaged or married, because self-control is practiced long before the wedding day. Where does this apply? In how you relate with the opposite sex, the conversations you entertain, the media you consume, and the spaces you allow yourself to be in. Joseph showed us this value when he fled from Potiphar’s wife rather than compromise his purity (Genesis 39:12).
Sexual value is not about fear but about freedom—the freedom to enjoy intimacy in marriage without guilt, shame, or the burden of broken covenants. It prepares you to enter marriage with confidence, trust, and the blessing of God. A relationship that ignores sexual values may appear exciting for a while, but in the long run, it weakens trust and damages spiritual intimacy. Ask yourself, am I guarding my purity? Am I helping my partner stay accountable, or am I pushing them toward compromise? Am I willing to honor God with my body until marriage?
Assessments:
1. Are you setting healthy boundaries in your relationships to protect your purity, or are you allowing situations that weaken your values?
2. Does your current relationship encourage sexual discipline and accountability, or does it create pressure to compromise?
3. How does your view of sexual purity reflect your desire to honor God and build a trustworthy marriage foundation?
Hope Expression Values You
Prince Victor Matthew
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