It’s
been fun to watch the response, and I totally connect with those of you
who’ve emailed me to ask: If this is the kind of person we shouldn’t date,
then what kind of person should we date?
The
truth is, there’s absolutely no way to narrow down the kind of guy you SHOULD
date into a few generic categories. And ultimately, the best relationships come
when we learn to be healthy, confident, and secure even while standing
alone.
While
there’s no such thing as finding the perfect guy, here are some traits to be on
the lookout for (Godly Man) when the timing is right
A guy whose in love with Jesus
When
a man is in love with Jesus, you can tell, because it overflows out of
everything he says, does, and impacts how he lives his life. A man who is
deeply connected with God’s Spirit He possess love, joy, peace, patience,
kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness and self-control, which are exactly the ingredients
that a good relationship is made of. Wait for a Man that loves Jesus…because he’ll
know how to love you in return.
Best
Friend Forever
Ladies,
don’t overlook the Best Friend Forever. This is the kind of guy that you’ve
been friends with your whole life. The guy with which you can laugh until you
pee (a little), share the same sense of humor, and have tons of things in
common. Oftentimes, he’s been sitting under your nose, and you didn’t even know
it. These kinds of men are a great catch, because they are loyal, faithful, and
true. Because they’ve been around for so long, what you see is what you get.
And the best relationships are always built on the foundation of friendship.
Don’t marry anything less than your best-friend.
The
Responsible Guy
A
man who is responsible with his life will be responsible with your heart. Wait for a guy who can take care of himself, manage his
finances, and prioritize his time. He’s the kind of guy who is reliable, and
follows through. This is the kind of guy who won’t just talk it; he’ll walk it,
too. A man who has direction in his life, will most likely also have
direction in his relationships.
A
Guy who is Discipline
We
all know that beauty runs deep, and so does “handsomeness” but let’s just put
it out there- attraction is a big deal. It’s not just about muscles, sex-appealing,
and for many ladies, it’s more than that. There are many ways to this because
the good news is that each lady has her own definition of attractive that
covers the variety! While there are many avenues to attraction, a man who pays
attention to his appearance and takes good care of his health is
definitely moving in the right direction. So look for a guy who has enough
self-love to take care of himself by looking his best, smelling his best, and
dressing his best (just so long as he doesn’t take more time than you to get
ready.)
Emotionally
Intelligence
As
you work on yourself- wait for a man who is also taking the time to heal, to grow,
and to
change into the best version of himself. I get it, not every man out
there enjoys discussing psychology, philosophy, and theology. Not every guy
wants to talk about his feelings always. And not every guy out there is
cultured in music, art, and theater. And that’s totally fine…but Wait for a guy
who is willing to get “deep” regarding the things that interest you. Wait for a
guy who is willing to share his heart with you, because that is the deepest and
most meaningful thing of all. There’s more to life than football and
electronics. Wait for a guy who’s willing to take you a little deeper.
A
Team-mate
Many
of us don’t know if we want family, or if we’ll even be able to have a family.
But the thing about this kind of guy is that he’s a family man with the family
in his life here and now. His relationships with his parents, siblings, and
friends, and with the most significant people in his life- reflect a good
picture of the kind of guy he really is. Wait for a man who treats, loves, and
respects His friends and family.
Character
Conscious Guy
There
are so many superficial qualities that ladies tend to get caught up in.
Sometimes ladies are often carried away, dumb and blind, because the
romantic-guy, the rich-guy, sweet-talking guy, and even a player tend to
outshine the Character Conscious Guy. But from what I know about a healthy
relationship and marriages, the Character Conscious Guy is always the best
choice- because honesty, compassion, loyalty, trustworthiness, and purity are
worth more than any amount of chocolate, roses, sex, cares, money, and diamonds
in the entire world.
The
Gentleman
I’m
not just talking about a guy who opens your door, pays for your meals, and
carries your bags. I’m talking about a greater kind of chivalry…a man of gentleness.
This man is filled with humility and respect, and treats you by the priceless,
God-given worth that you have. A real man may carry your bag, but more
so, he’ll gently hold your heart. A real man may offer you his coat when
it’s cold, but more so he’ll offer you respect, honor, and loyalty displayed in
how he lives his life.
Detail
Conscious
A
man who knows how to communicate in a mature and respectful way (even when he
disagrees) is the mark of a man worth holding on to, because communication is the
blood-line of a relationship. The road to marriage means embarking on a
life-long conversation. The moment you stop talking, is the moment you
start moving backwards. Find a man who is willing to talk to you, share his
vision with you and share his life with you. Because God knows you’re going to
need it.
May
the Holy Spirit grant you the wisdom and understanding to know what to do per
time per season in Jesus Name, Amen.
Jesus
Loves You.
Be
Inspired!
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