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Understanding The Female Gender

From childhood rhymes, to contemporary literature, to the bible – people have been talking about the differences between men and ladies. We’re obsessed with identifying the things that make us uniquely man, or lady.

We’ll start with some things about ladies that every man needs to know:

-         Ladies don’t want you to fix it, they just want you to listen. Ladies just want to feel validated, supported, and heard.

-         Ladies appreciate the little things. Believe it or not, when it comes to impressing ladies, you don’t have to go big or go home. This applies to all things, because what they are really looking for is thoughtfulness. Kind words, meaningful touch, and small acts of service. Your love is best communicated in the details.

Don’t mistake their tears for weakness. Men, as you learn to understand these tears, remember that they are not a sign of weakness- but a sign of strength. The strength to be real, vulnerable, and genuine. The strength to be passionate, compassionate and the strength to actually feel.

-         Ladies wake up looking a whole lot different than when they went to bed.

I’ve participated and I still can’t seem to figure out why in the world ladies wake up looking like crazy-zombie-people, while men looks even cuter. Somehow, ladies decompose through the night to an almost unrecognizable state in the morning.  It’s something I feel that all men should know so they have an idea of exactly what it is they’re getting into.

The worst thing you can do to make a lady to calm down, is to tell her to relax.

In fact, there’s probably no other word that could get us more worried. What is it about the word relax that drives ladies so lonely? Not sure, but most ladies I talk to feel the exact same way. Remember to always handle ladies with care.

-         Ladies want to be your partner, not your mother.

Ladies have the unhealthy tendency of taking care of the men in their lives and then resenting them. The truth is, they were made to nurture, but in marriage and in healthy relationships, that nurturing needs to be played out in the context of a give-and-take relationship. They want to serve, yet they also need to be served. They want to give, but we also need to feel that we’re receiving. They want to be able to take care of their man, but just as much, they want to feel that the man is taking good care of them.

-         Ladies think a man’s most attractive quality, is his heart.

No matter what other messages this world may feed you, don’t ever lose sight of this most important thing. Your faith, purity, character, honesty and integrity are more meaningful to any good lady than all else you could offer her.  Our culture might make you feel like good guys come out last, but it’s those good guys that Godly ladies want to spend the rest of our lives with.

Men and ladies can often see life in different ways, but the beauty of different perspectives, is that they lend themselves to us doing life together. Here’s to God’s creativity, a creativity that is seen through our genders, in our personalities, and among all of our relationships.

May the Holy Spirit grant you more wisdom and may He teach you how to care, love and communicate with the ladies around you in Jesus Name, Amen.

Jesus Loves You.

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