So
in all fairness, let me be clear in saying that healthy relationships aren’t
just about avoiding the wrong kind of lady, or in finding the right kind of lady.
Healthy relationships are a two-way
street. Two people, each becoming the best they can be for themselves,
and for one another. From my perspective, you are the only one responsible for
the kind of person you date. So to all my fellow men out there, here are ladies
you should NEVER date
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Miss
Perfect
You
know exactly who I’m talking about, don’t you? If you don’t recognize her by
her “augmentations” you might recognize her by the fact it takes her three
hours to get ready, the ridiculous amount of time she spends looking in the
mirror, the five inches of make-up on her face, or the way that she has to look
“just perfect” in order to go anywhere or do anything, including a trip to the
gym, or supermarket. I support ladies looking presentable, and I am encouraging
ladies to use makeup wisely, but let’s remember that true beauty never starts
on the outside, it always runs so much deeper. Be on the lookout for THAT kind
of unfading beauty.
-
Miss.
Playful
This
one right here will win you over with her seductive glances and her flattering
words. But the problem you’ll start noticing is that her flirting isn’t
contained to just you. The glances she gives your waiter, the way talks to your
roommate, or the way she giggles flirtatiously at your best friends jokes. It’s
one thing to be playful as an avenue of affection within a relationship; it’s a
whole other thing when you’re marked by your playful way. Recognize this one
quickly, because what you see here is what you’ll get.
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Miss Sexy
It’s
great to have self-confidence as a lady, but that’s not what I’m talking about
here. In fact, this lady often feels so insecure about herself, that she uses
her body to gain affirmation from men. In other words, she flaunts her stuff to
anyone who’s willing to look. While her seduction might draw you like a magnet,
you’ll quickly realize that it’s also drawing everyone else, too. And one thing
I’ve learned from mentors is that one of the most attractive things about a
relationship with a lady is the uniqueness of that lady being “yours only”. So
find a lady that shows she’s “all yours” by respecting her body and reserving
it for the proper time.
-
Miss.
Empty
One
of the most beautiful things about the early stages of relationship is the
mystery involved. Little by little you get to know one layer at a time,
revealing heart, mind, soul and spirit. But as you peel back the layers of this
particular lady, you’ll realize that she’s empty. This is the kind of lady who
hasn’t really taken the time to know herself, know her beliefs, or know what
she feels or thinks. She’ll likely default to your preferences, your beliefs,
your relationship with God, and even your interests. While this may seem to
make life easy at first, the lack of mystery and depth will wear you down,
because a healthy relationship involves two unique identities- not just one
trying to mimic or copy the other partner.
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Miss.
Greed
She
loves your car, she loves your career, and she loves your cash. But does she
really like you? You’ll recognize this one quickly, because she’ll take all she
can get from you, and give very little back in return. She’s looking for
security more than she’s looking for a significant relationship. Say bye-bye
before your cash runs out.
-
Miss.
Overly Critical
I
think this is the worst of all the ladies you could date. According to
proverbs, a lady like this is like the sound of a leak dripping: constant,
annoying, and problematic!! And just like a leak, this lady will DRAIN you, and
leave you questioning your value, your significance, and your worth. You’ll
never feel appreciated under the constant cloud of criticism. First, see the good in yourself, and then
find a lady who can do the same.
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Miss.
Bossy
These
types of lady will micromanage your entire life. She’ll have an opinion about
how you should spend your money, chew your food, iron your clothes, and maybe
even how you should change your personality. The thing about this lady is that
she’s a control-freak. And one thing I know about control freaks is that deep down,
they feel like they have no control in some area of their life, and so they
take it out on their relationships. This habit is not one you can “out learn”,
in fact, it takes a lot of time, introspection, and work. So step away from
this relationship, and give her the time she needs to heal, to learn, and to
grow.
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Miss. Wish
A
lady like this will take your heart on quite a ride, because she doesn’t really
know what she wants. One moment she’s into you, and the other moment she’s
confused and wants to take a step back. This internal struggle is not going to
be resolved anytime soon, so do yourself a favor and find someone who’s just as
into you as you are into them. Healthy
relationships are marked by peace, not by constant doubt and regret.
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Miss. One-Way-Street
This
princess thinks that somehow, relationship is all-about-her. She may even
wrongly believe this is a “biblical” approach to relationships. In other words-
she expects you to do all the work, and to put in all the effort while she sits
back and reaps the rewards. The sad part is that sometimes this mentality is
wrongly perpetuated in some church circles, as the men are expected to be the
“leaders” while the ladies are the “followers”. That might work for some guys,
but for others, this lack of reciprocity in a relationship eventually becomes
demanding. You need a lady who will pour into you, as much as you pour into
her. Who will sharpen you as you sharpen her too. Who will challenge you
to become better, while you do the same for her. The best relationships are made of two people- each giving their best to
one another.
-
Miss.
Drama-Drama
Drama
with her mum, drama with her best friend, drama with her boss at work. This
lady is characterized by drama everywhere she goes, and she tells you all about
it. But the drama isn’t necessarily the dangerous part in this kind of lady,
it’s the underlying belief that it’s always everyone else’s fault. This lady is
to be avoided because she doesn’t understand the meaning of taking ownership
and responsibility of her life, actions, decisions and relationships. And trust
me, that blame-game will quickly become a part of your relationship, too.
With that in mind, let’s all be mindful of the
reality that relationships aren’t about finding perfection - we all know that doesn’t exist. But they are about finding
imperfect people, who realize their flaws and weaknesses, and are working to
become better and better with each and every passing day.
May the Holy Spirit
safeguard you from these set of ladies in Jesus Name.
May the Lord Almighty
Help you to obey His leading and direction in Jesus Name
Jesus Loves You!
Be Inspired!
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