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Ladies! Beware of this Man.



Just say no to bad dates or for that matter, bad relationships. Imagine how simple your love-life could be if you just agreed to God’s principle? But sometimes it’s easier said than done, isn’t it? Sometimes, we miss the warning signs. Or worse yet, ignore them.
 
No matter who you are, how desperate you feel, how long you’ve been single or how badly you’re looking for a date; please do yourself a favor and listen to this warning signal.

Mr. Busy
I don’t know what it is about this guy, but let me warn you - he’s addicting. There’s just something about the “unknown” (does he like me, or not?) that keeps you guessing and coming back for more. You can recognize him in that he knows how to talk the talk, but his actions never seem to follow-suit. But the biggest problem with this kind of guy is that he’s using you for as long as you’ll stick around. So do yourself a favor and move on.

Mr. On &Off 
This guy will do anything to get you to stay on his roller-coaster ride of up and down emotions. One moment you’re “the one” and the next moment he’s confused, confined, and non-committal. What you need to know about this guy is that this isn’t a “phase”, it’s a glimpse of the rest of your life. Talk about some serious sickness. It time to get off the rollercoaster or better yet - never get on it.

Mr. Out of Sight Out of Mind
This guy is sweet, charming, flirtatious, and basically everything you imagined him to be, while you’re around. But when you’re not around? Well, he’ll be that same sweet, charming, and flirtatious guy with the next lady. For him, it’s not about commitment, it’s about the moment. That’s definitely not a guy you can trust. 

Mr. Past
Oh yeah, he says he’s interested. He might even tell you he’s in love. But then why can’t he let go of his past? Why do you find yourself worried about who else he’s interacting with, and how he’s interacting with them? With the right guy there are no options- there are only relationships. And healthy relationships can only develop and progress when the focus is on one person at a time.

Mr. Physical.
The thing that makes me crazy about Mr. Physical is that he’s SO OBVIOUS…yet so charming. He makes you think that he’s really into you- when all the while his primary focus is on what he can get from you. But even with his obvious advances and fixation on the physical, you’ll find yourself making excuses, giving more and more of yourself until it’s too late. Recognize him quick, and once you do, make a quick break. Don’t get stuck in the physical, because healthy relationships are built on so much more than this.

Mr. Spiritual
This is the nice guy most girls would fall for. He let’s you choose everything because he wants whatever makes you happy…even when it comes to your spiritual life. He may go to church on Sundays, have good morals, and even say the right things. But deep down, he’s only sort-of spiritual. His life has hints of Jesus, instead of being DEFINED by Jesus. Don’t just settle for a church man, wait for a man that loves Jesus.

Mr. Mummy’s Boy
This guy will make you feel more like his mom than his girl. He’ll have you taking care of him before you even know what hit you. And you’ll like it, because it will make you feel important. But what you don’t realize is that a relationship with this guy is sure to be one-sided. So until he’s ready to put down the video games, pay his own bills, and do his own laundry…it’s time to move on to bigger and “more mature” things no matter how hot he is. You deserve a partner- not someone who needs a parent. 

Mr. Me, Myself & I Alone
He may or may not be the kind of guy who’s obsessed with his looks but one thing is for sure, he’s obsessed with himself. He has all the answers and wants to date a girl who will just nod her head and smile. He doesn’t care what you want, or even who you are, because he makes all the choices and his preferences always outshine yours. Stay far away from this guy, and wait for a man who is marked by humility and selflessness…because only that kind of man can love you like you deserve to be loved.

Mr. Track Record
You know all about his history. In fact, this guy has quite a reputation with the ladies. So why on earth did you convince yourself that things would be different with you? This guy will leave you with a broken heart just like he left the string of ladies before you. Come to terms with the reality that you can’t change him with your love or with anything else for that matter. Instead, wait for someone who you can love for who they are and not for what you hope them to be.

Mr. Lies
A relationship built without honesty, is really no relationship at all. I don’t care if he’s lying about his age, his past, his family, or the color of his car, a lie is a lie. But most importantly, early on in a relationship it’s a big red flag. This guy is marked by a pattern of dishonesty and little white and black lies. Lies about things that might not even matter. But what matters is the habits that are being formed, and the pretense that’s being maintained. A man who has nothing to hide becomes a safe place in which a lady can hide her heart. Wait for that kind of man.

May the Holy Spirit grant you more wisdom and understanding in Jesus Name, Amen.

May the Holy Spirit grant you the strength to be patient and the wisdom to decide according to His plans for your life in Jesus Name, Amen.

Jesus loves you.

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