Dear sister in Christ, entering into a dating relationship is a significant step that requires careful consideration, prayer, and readiness. One of the most important aspects of being ready for a relationship is your ability to create time for the person interested in pursuing you. If you find yourself too busy to be friendly or to carve out time to get to know this man, it might be a sign that you’re not yet ready for a dating relationship.
As Christian women, we often juggle many responsibilities—work, ministry, family, personal growth, and more. These are all important and should be prioritized. However, relationships also require intentional time and effort. A dating relationship is not something to be taken lightly; it’s a journey that could potentially lead to marriage, and therefore, it deserves the time and attention it needs to grow.
Creating Space for Connection
A relationship cannot thrive without connection, and connection requires time. The Bible tells us in Ecclesiastes 3:1, "To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven." This scripture reminds us that there is a time for everything, including the time needed to build a relationship.
If your current season of life is so full that you can’t find the time to invest in getting to know someone, it’s important to be honest with yourself. Are you in a season where God is calling you to focus on other areas of your life? Perhaps this is a time for personal growth, deepening your relationship with God, or achieving certain goals before entering into a relationship. It’s okay to acknowledge that you’re not ready for dating at this time.
On the other hand, if you feel that you are ready for a relationship but your schedule is overflowing, it may be time to reassess your priorities. Being busy is not inherently bad, but it can become a hindrance if it prevents you from creating space for meaningful relationships. A healthy relationship requires more than just saying "yes" to a date; it involves being present, attentive, and available.
Friendliness and Availability: Keys to Building a Relationship
Friendliness is an essential part of any relationship, especially in the early stages. Proverbs 18:24 says, "A man that hath friends must show himself friendly." This principle applies to romantic relationships as well. If you are too preoccupied to be warm, open, and approachable, it’s worth considering whether this is the right time for you to pursue a relationship.
A man who is interested in you is looking for a connection. He wants to know you better, spend time with you, and build a relationship based on mutual understanding and respect. If you’re too busy to engage in friendly conversations, to go out on dates, or to simply enjoy each other’s company, the relationship will struggle to take root.
This doesn’t mean that you have to drop everything at once or abandon your responsibilities. Rather, it means being intentional about making time for someone who could potentially become an important part of your life. Relationships require balance, and finding that balance is crucial for a relationship to grow in a healthy and God-honoring way.
Are You Ready for the Commitment?
Being ready for a relationship is not just about having feelings for someone or being flattered by their attention. It’s about being prepared to commit time, energy, and emotional availability to another person. If your current lifestyle doesn’t allow for that, it may be a sign that you need to focus on other areas of your life before entering into a relationship.
It’s also important to seek God’s guidance in this decision. James 1:5 encourages us, "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him." Pray and ask God for wisdom to discern whether you are truly ready for a relationship. He knows your heart and your circumstances better than anyone, and He will guide you in making the right decision.
Sister, if you find yourself too busy to be friendly and to create time for someone who is interested in dating you, it may be an indication that you are not yet ready for a relationship. It’s important to be honest with yourself and with the person pursuing you. A relationship requires time, connection, and emotional availability, and these things cannot flourish if you are too preoccupied with other aspects of your life.
Take the time to evaluate your readiness for a relationship, seek God’s guidance, and be willing to make the necessary adjustments if you feel that you are truly ready. Remember, it’s better to wait for the right season than to rush into a relationship that you’re not prepared for. Trust in God’s timing, and when you are ready, you will be able to enter into a relationship with the time and energy it deserves.
Hope Expression celebrates you.
Prince Victor Matthew
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