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I LOVE YOU - Part 3



YOU…

Let us look into the “YOU.” 

You want to love, accept, respect and stay committed to some one but some the time, you do underestimate people. I do understand that the passion is so strong and the attraction is boiling. My question for you is: 

-         Do you really know this person you want to love?
-         Do you really understand this person you want to love?
-         Do you know and understand this person’s priority?
-         Do you know and understand this person’s passion?
-         Do you know and understand this person’s struggles?
-         Can you accept this person’s past?
-         Can you cope with the kind of person they will become in future?
-         Do you know where they are coming from in life?
-         Do you know where they are presently?
-         Do you know where they are going to in life?
-         Can you tolerate and help them improve their weaknesses?
-         Do you know and understand their desires, fears, worries, doubts and expectations in life?
-         Apart from whom you think they are; who are they really?
-         Apart from what you want them to do, what is their capacity?
-         Do you know their beliefs? Do you agree with their beliefs?

Let us look further:

-      Its okay for them to be good enough for you, are you good enough for them?  
-         It’s okay for you to be good enough for them, are they good enough for you?
-         It’s okay that you need them, do they really need you?
-         It’s okay that they need you, do you need them?
-         Is this person in line with the vision and purpose you have in Christ?
-         Will they fit into your vision?
-         Can you fit into their vision?
-         Can both of you think together?
-         Can both of you walk together?
-         Can both of you work together?
-         Can both of you communicate with each other without the fear of misunderstanding?
-         Can both of you handle misunderstanding in respect?

All these questions are issues you must consider. These questions can not be answered overnight. It’s totally impossible for you answer this question if you lack a friendly attitude with the people around you. These are issues you must give God room to deal with in your life.

One of the problems I see in this generation is when people want to date some one that is not their friend. This approach has been the reason why innocent but guilty youths and teenagers are so hurts. Dating or relationship is not the problem in itself. The problem here is your approach to it.

Ask your self,
-         Do you just love the ideal of relationship and love or you are ready to be fully committed? 

Some people just like the ideal of kissing some one but do not love the person in question. Some people just like the ideal of having sex with some one but do not love the person in question. In other words, kissing and sex does not imply this person loves you. It’s deeper than that. They can love kissing you and having sex with you but not interested in you or stay committed to you in person. DON’T BUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP ON KISSING AND SEX. STAY CLEAN TILL YOUR WEDDING NIGHT.

I want you to understand that loving people is not the problem; the challenge is dating the way that pleases God. You will never know how to love right if you have not given God a room to love you. But the situation here is this; God wants you to take your time and experience His love. God wants you to grow and become a resourceful person to your self. Running into another relationship now will not solve your loneliness, low self esteem, insecurity, etc…  

God wants you to settle down in His word. He wants you to get the right motive to love or date and also get your life right through His word. You need to be complete all by your self. You don’t need to wait and expect people to be responsible for the very issues in your life you need to deal with personally. Deal with that pride, lies, rudeness, greed, unforgiveness, etc… with God’s word. Become the very person you want to date and marry. If you want your future spouse to be patient, cultivate patience in your own life too. However you want people to treat you, cultivate the same capacity of treating people the same way. Don’t import into other people’s life the struggles you are refusing to deal with in your life. Fight your own fight and run your own race – don’t expect any one to do it for you and don’t blame any one. 

Look unto Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith. Jesus is calling you to come home (Matthew 11:28) come to Jesus and he will give you rest.

LET’S PRAY!
May the Father of creation and our Lord JESUS establish you in His Righteousness in Jesus Name.

The Holy Spirit will help you to respect, value, and love yourself in Jesus Name.

May the Holy Spirit daily reveal yourself to your self in Jesus Name.

May God daily reveal himself to you in Jesus Name.

Receive the Divine Encounter you need to become who God has destined you to be in Jesus Name.

May The Holy Spirit help you to set your life in order Jesus Name.

Jesus loves you so much.

There is still HOPE for you.

You are loved.

You are Royal!
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