LOVE…
Who
you are and what you have is what you will bring into any relationship.
Can
you imagine you bringing all you are now into a relationship, will that
relationship be healthy or disaster?
Caution:
When you want to compliment some one’s talent, creativity, and attitude be
specific. You can say I love the way you sing, I love the way you dance, or I
love the way you make decisions. Many people will misunderstand your compliment
if you are not specific about what you say you love. And this can lead you into
a big problem.
When
you say ‘I love you’ with the intention of staying committed to some one either
in platonic or Romantic relationship, that’s a world of responsibility and
accountability. This will demand all you are and what you have.
I accept you. I value
you. I respect you. I’m committed to you etc. all these are the picture of the
statement ‘I love you.’
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Before you think of accepting someone,
have you accepted yourself?
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Before you value some one, have much
regard do you have for yourself?
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Before you respect that person, do you
have respect for your self?
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Before you stay committed to that
person, how committed are you to your self, your dreams, your priority, and
self development?
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Do you really have any idea of what you
want to import into another person’s life through relationship?
So when you say I love
you - what do you mean?
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Do you mean I’m lusting after you?
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Do you mean I want to kiss you but I’m
not ready to be committed to you?
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Do you mean I want your money but I
don’t want you?
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Do you mean I want to manipulate you?
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Do you mean I want to be domineering
over you?
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Do you mean I’m deceptive?
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Do you mean I want you to live your life
for me?
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Do you mean I want you to abandon your
dreams? Etc…
THINK!
The topic still remain,
‘I love “YOU”
Who you are and what
you have needs to be a blessing to the person you want to accept, value, and
stay committed.
There is nothing wrong
with you trying to love and date some one but let us carefully answer the
following questions
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Are you emotionally balance or healthy?
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How complete are you?
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Have you recovered from your past hurts?
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Have you dealt with your past?
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Are you still dwelling in your past?
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Are you still locked in the prison of
your past mistakes, guilt and regrets?
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Are you free?
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Are you a liability or an asset?
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Before you think of dating some one,
have you dated yourself?
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Have you invested in your self well
enough?
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Do you have time for yourself?
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How settled are you in the word of God?
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How consistent is your personal
relationship with God? How fruitful is your relationship with God? Have you
developed your mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional capacity?
There
are lots of self examinations you must embrace. If you are not healthy, your
relationship will not be healthy – even if your partner is healthy.
Examine yourself!
To be continued...
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