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I Love Sex - Part 3



MASTURBATION 

The deception of the devil or sin to you is so bad. Masturbation is never a good opportunity to escape your sexual urge. I need you to understand this; you create more damage to your sexual urge or pattern of fulfillment when you settle for masturbation. Yes it true that no body will know it and you will be relieved but the damage it does to your mindset and self esteem is great. There is an inner side effect to every section of masturbation you experience. What you think about when masturbating set the capacity and expectation of your sexual satisfaction.

Masturbation creates a false confidence that kills the value for respect. It gives you the idea you can do without any man or lady. It even reduces your believe to see that ladies are nothing but object for satisfying your sexual urge. You will totally loose interest for friendship with the opposite gender. You will not like the idea of doing things together with the opposite gender… things like your talent, creativity and you will end up becoming rude and impatient with the opposite sex. It also kills your ability to apologize to the opposite gender. It gives you a wrong impression, making you believe that since you are not having sex with the opposite gender, you are better than those who are having sex with the opposite sex (self righteousness). It also makes you feel that you are in control – “you can satisfy your self any time, any day, and any how without any body’s approval.” But the truth is; you are salve, irresponsible, and a weakling.

Masturbation reduces or destroys your value for romance and sex – making you to be selfish and so insensitive to people because you feel you need no body.

The first step to be free from it is; you must accept that you need help. You must accept the fact that you have believed the lies of the devil all this time. You must develop hatred for masturbation as you choose to see it as your enemy and killer of your self worth. You must loose interest in it; if you can conquer it in your mind, you can conquer the act. Stop making excuses for masturbating. Stop seeing reasons why you should masturbate and understand that this is not how God designed you to function.

Any body that is a slave to masturbation is directly or indirectly connected to pornography.

PORNOGRAPHY

Some people are victims of this by accident and some people are victims of this by curiosity. In any way, I want you to understand that all that you have seen in the pornography are misconceptions of what God has already design sex to be. All you see when you watch pornography is disrespect for men, ladies, and object for pleasure.  They are so insensitive and even thou some of the acting up is real; it gives you a fake picture of sex.

This keeps you in bondage because either you are having sex before marriage or in marriage; you keep having the picture and voice of the man or the lady you saw in the porn video. Imagine you been enslave to some one you will never met. It makes you the jailer of your own prison.

Directly or indirectly, you will be enslaved to the porn videos or pictures. You are doing your self more harm. This is not for the singles alone, even if you are married: you have no right to depend on porn videos or picture for your sexual expression to your wife or husband. Stop punishing the lady or man to fit into what you saw in the porn video or picture. Be your self and be creative in your unique way. To the married couples, the Holy Spirit is able and willing to help you to be more creativity in every thing including sex. You have an excellent spirit in you and you are better than the porn videos and pictures.

Singles help your self through abstaining from porn videos and pictures. Do your best through the Grace of the Lord to abstain from sex till your wedding night. I need you to know that obeying this instruction is for your own good. There are two options here, you either learn or you suffer (enjoy or endure).

You can be free but you must come to understand that there is some thing wrong with porn videos and pictures. You must decide to release your self from the mental imprisonment. The naked ladies and guys you have store up in your mind through porn videos and picture must be erased. You can only start erasing when you choose to stop feeding your mind with porn videos and picture. Since you choose not to believe the lies porn videos and pictures are telling you, you must replace with a better information (God’s word) – Romans 12:2.

Instead of you allowing porn videos and picture to enslave your mind, you can be creativity in a positive way with that same mind. You can focus on your dreams and personal relationship with God. Enough of the lies of the devil; you need help.

May the Holy Spirit posses your heart and help you to overcome masturbation and the watch of porn videos in Jesus Name.

Jesus loves you so much.

To be continued...
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