- Make time to talk.  Leaving issues unresolved soon leads to a buildup that could be explosive. Make time to talk to your partner. Communicate. See what has been bugging him or her and nip the matter in the bud. If you are too busy to spare some time for quality communication with your partner, you will soon have all the time in the world with nobody to share with, when he or she get frustrated with your presence. - Be willing to make up. Always be willing to make up, no matter who is at fault or what caused a disagreement. Show this by your attitude towards your partner. Some people once face, thereby putting a brick wall between themselves and their partner. This is wrong. The Bible says in Proverbs 19:11, The discretion of a man deferreth his anger. Even in trouble situations, be the peacemaker, still call your partner by his or her pet name and talk to him or her with kind words. What you have is a misunderstanding not a war. If you treat it like a war, the...

Have you ever heard of a mental trap? Well, believe it or not, they exist. Seemingly innocent thought processes with some majorly dangerous power. They enter into our minds when we’re weak, tired, angry, hungry, sick, or feeling alone. They creep their way into our thinking, and start wreaking havoc on the way we view and feel about ourselves and our lives. Patterns of negative thinking that lead to nothing but frustration and pain.   At the risk of sounding “holier than thou”, let me start off by saying that even as a Professional Counselor, at some point in my life, I have uttered every one of the below phrases. Over the past years, I’ve learned a lot about the power of my mind, and being careful the things I think about. It’s true that our thoughts have so much power over our feelings and behaviors…and in turn, the things that play out in our lives. So, if you’re single and feeling frustrated, here are a few mental traps to avoid: - Is there something wrong with me? ...

No one will ever say “I’m out to date a player.” In fact, that’s pretty much the LAST thing anyone would ever say or wish for in a relationship.   But far too many young ladies and men are saying they want a healthy relationship with their words, but doing just about everything possible to attract the wrong kind of person. And actions always speak far louder than words. Human beings are like magnets, and we send out certain vibes by the way we act, speak, and behave that draw the right (or totally wrong) kind of person to our side. I interact with many young men and ladies that are doing everything wrong, yet completely dumbfounded as to why they aren’t landing a healthy relationship . So if you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a “less than desirable” relationship (to say the least), here are some things you were probably doing: Doing Everything in the Relationship Do you want to attract the wrong kind of person? Then go ahead and DO everything yourself. Be the...