It’s been fun to watch the response, and I totally connect with those of you who’ve emailed me to ask: If this is the kind of person we shouldn’t date, then what kind of person should we date? The truth is, there’s absolutely no way to narrow down the kind of guy you SHOULD date into a few generic categories. And ultimately, the best relationships come when we learn to be healthy, confident, and secure even while standing alone. While there’s no such thing as finding the perfect guy, here are some traits to be on the lookout for (Godly Man) when the timing is right A guy whose in love with Jesus When a man is in love with Jesus, you can tell, because it overflows out of everything he says, does, and impacts how he lives his life. A man who is deeply connected with God’s Spirit He possess love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness and self-control, which are exactly the ingredients that a good relationship is made of. Wait for...

Dear Christian Single, I get it. Dating seems complicated. You flood my inbox every day with a list of your seriously legitimate (well…mostly) questions. How do I know if this is the one?   Is there even such thing as “the one”? Does God want me to be single? Is (insert name of your significant other) right for me? Should I ask him out or is that too forward? Which is better- dating or courtship? I read your questions, and I feel your struggle. Trust me; there was time in my life when I was just as confused as anyone else. I had no idea what to believe or where to start. And so I empathize with you, because part of the problem has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the culture we’ve created around dating and relationships in general. The “Christian culture” has done quite a number on this topic, hasn’t it? We’ve complicated it. We’ve added a ton of rules, and spread them with even more rules. We’ve taken pre...

Just say no to bad dates o r for that matter, bad relationships. Imagine how simple your love-life could be if you just agreed to God’s principle? But sometimes it’s easier said than done, isn’t it? Sometimes, we miss the warning signs. Or worse yet, ignore them.   No matter who you are, how desperate you feel, how long you’ve been single or how badly you’re looking for a date; please do yourself a favor and listen to this warning signal. Mr. Busy I don’t know what it is about this guy, but let me warn you - he’s addicting. There’s just something about the “unknown” (does he like me, or not?) that keeps you guessing and coming back for more. You can recognize him in that he knows how to talk the talk, but his actions never seem to follow-suit. But the biggest problem with this kind of guy is that he’s using you for as long as you’ll stick around. So do yourself a favor and move on. Mr. On &Off  This guy will do anything to get you to stay on his ...