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Prepare to Intentionally Build Intimacy

Beloved of God, marriage is not sustained by attraction alone. As a single person preparing for marriage, you must understand that intimacy requires intentionality. You will need to learn how to communicate your thoughts, express your emotions, listen without becoming defensive, and create an environment where your future spouse feels safe enough to be known.

You may desire a spouse who understands you, but have you learned how to make yourself understandable? Intimacy grows when two people can talk about their fears, expectations, weaknesses, dreams, finances, family backgrounds, sexuality, faith and future without constantly feeling judged or dismissed. Do not wait until marriage to discover that you never learned how to have vulnerable conversations.

Prepare to give attention, not merely receive it. Your future spouse will need more than your provision, beauty, intelligence or spiritual gifts. They will need your presence. Learn to notice when someone is struggling, ask meaningful questions, apologize when necessary and communicate before resentment becomes distance. “Speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things.” — Ephesians 4:15

Intimacy is also spiritual. A healthy Christian marriage should create room for prayer, worship, friendship, affection and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit. You are not preparing merely to share a house or carry the same surname; you are preparing to build a covenant relationship where both of you can grow in Christ and fulfill your God given assignments without competing with one another.

So while you are single, prepare your heart for closeness. Heal where you need healing. Learn to trust wisely. Develop emotional maturity. Stop treating vulnerability as weakness and stop confusing control with intimacy. The person you marry should not have to spend the marriage fighting to gain access to your heart. Prepare now to love deeply, communicate honestly, and build intimacy intentionally.

Hope Expression Values You 
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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