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Love and Romance

We have youths who can speak DANGEROUS tongues of the Spirit but act like chicken when it comes to romance.

Romance is not a sin.....your motive is what can corrupt it to be sin.

Romance is a display of affection to some one with the aim to make the person feel secure and special.

Romance is in three dimension;

- Touch
- Words
- Stirring or looking.

Romantic touch is in two dimension:

- Sexual touches.
These are romantic touch that stirs up sexual urges. Touches around the sensitive part of the body... Tight hugs...etc

- Non sexual touches
These are touches like petting on the shoulders, back, toes, palm, hair on the head....

I call them innocent touch just for the sake of petting some one. No plans or motive for kissing or sex. Shoulder to chest hugs....pecks on the forehead...pecks at the back of the hand... Etc

The second dimension of romance is words....it can be written or spoken words. Words that reminds this person how special you are to them....it can be poem. Text messages....posting of pictures on social media...requesting for a song to be played on the radio station dedicating it to him or her.....

This is you using your words to admire, honour and appreciate how special this person is to you AND MAKING SURE THEY HEAR, LISTEN OR READ THESE WORDS .

The third dimension of romance is looking and stirring...constant eye contact with your lover either when they are talking to you or when you are talking to them.....makes them feel important (Romantic). Attending an event together and he or she catches you stirring at them from the other side of the room....with a smile on your face...a smile the expressed how special you feel having him or her in your life.

We have sexual stirring or eye contact.....appreciative stirring or eye contact...am missing you stirring or eye constant....etc

Whatsoever that makes your lover feel blessed, special, appreciated, and feel secured around you or even when you are absent is ROMANTIC  OR ROMANCE.
Stop using spirituality to make your relationship unhealthy.

If you fail or succeed, its going to be either your choice or your fault.

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