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YOU DON’T NEED A PARTNER YET

You might not agree with me when I say you don't need a partner yet because of your hunger to love and be loved but read carefully. You don't need a partner yet because you are still bleeding from the past hurt and disappointment. You might argue with me but here is what I call healing; healing is when you remember what happened and its not longer affecting your mood or dictating how you treat other people. So, with what you have read, have you healed?

This is the reason why you are struggling in relationship because you keep treating everyone coming your way like the people that hurt you in your past. Every body is not like your ex lover or ex spouse. Every man is not like your dad that gave up on you. Every man is not like your mum that gave up on you. You need to reconcile with your past and see the pain as an event and not a life sentence or factor that will control your present and future.

You don't need a partner yet because of your low self esteem. You keep feeling like a failure because of a failed relationship. You keep feeling you are not worthy of love because some one misunderstood you or because you made a mistake. It is okay to accept the truth but until you start using God's love for your life to dictate how you feel about yourself, you won't be healthy to engage in relationship with anyone. Fix your self esteem on the ground of God's love and the Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.

You don't need a partner yet until you intentionally fix your self image. You can't continue seeing your self through the experience of a failure relationship or your past mistakes. You make all the excuses you like but if you fail to fix this wrong impression of you created by a failed relationship or past mistakes, you won't be able to bring your best into engaging a premarital relationship with the opposite gender.

You don't need a partner yet until you intentionally fix your self worth. You must learn to know that your value is based on the truth that you belong to God and God's has a plan for your life. No relationship outside God can define your worth or value. Irrespective of the personality of the lady or man that walked away, your value is still intact in Christ. This is the truth and you must embrace it for it to become your own reality.

You don't need a partner yet until you are ready to learn from your mistakes, admit your fault and allow the word of God to transform you into the best version of your self. If you are expecting the best in relationship, you must learn to become the best and step into your next relationship with that best version of your self. You can't allow innocent people to suffer for the pain other's have caused you in the past. You must embrace the principles of self responsibility and individual differences.

This is the reason why you keep struggling or making people coming your way to struggle because you are still buried in the past. You are still mourning over the best you offered to some one that abused it in the past. This is the reason why you need a partner yet. You must allow the word of God to heal and transform you in a way that no body will suffer transfer aggression from you. It is time to BECOME WHAT YOU ARE PRAYING TO HAVE IN A PARTNER. You can't be praying for a considerate partner yet remain in your inconsiderate mindset or attitude.

I am not looking down on you when I wrote that YOU DON'T NEED A PARTNER YET. It is out of love for you and for the safety of the mental health of the next person that seeks to date and marry you. It is for your welfare in becoming the kind of person God wants you to become in your relationship or marital destiny. Beloved of God, you don't need a partner yet. Until your attitude, and approach to love and relationship becomes free from your past hurt and past failed relationship, you are you not yet ready to become a blessing to some one in premarital relationship or marriage. Allow Jesus to help you today. You can love again, trust again and dream again because God is more committed to you than you think.

Hope Expression Values You 
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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