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CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER WITH WISDOM

I want to address the men first. As a man, you need to understand that your choice is your authority. Who you choose becomes your responsibility. Choosing is not the problem but how you choose matters. It is important that you feel that attraction but beyond that there are things you must put in consideration.

First you must choose who you need. This is very important because there is a place where attraction will fade and reality will set in. At that junction, your needs in life and in what God has committed into your hands will kick in. Your needs are the quality of attitude, mindsets and manner of approach that will protect your mental health and also make the deploying of your assignment easier.

Lack of the right knowledge of your need that has foresight and not just the moment will highly set you up in choosing a lady that you don't need and a lady that is not aligned to your journey in destiny. This will lead me to the second step. Choose who you can plan with, pray with and most importantly, some one whose attitude, mindset, and manner of approach to things are peaceful for you to live with and function with as a person. 

The fact that you desire her does not mean you need her. The fact that she is attractive does not mean she is relevant in your journey in life. The next is for you to choose who can help you in the direction of your kind of person, your kind of needs and your kind of journey in life. It's not about impressing anyone or proving a point to anyone. It's about choose who can help you and support.

Another thing I must bring to light is you choosing who you can cultivate, who you can instruct, who you can lead, and who you can protect to become all God wants her to become in the generation. Pay attention to how she talks and treat you to evulate if you will have peace of mind in future with the choice you are about to make or have made. 

Let me address my sister's, accept a man with wisdom. Accept a man whose attitude, mindset and manner of approach to things inspires and encourage you to function and become who God wants you to be. Accept a man you can help and support. Accept a man you trust and a man whose life challenges you to grow and improve in every aspect of your life. Accept a man that can lead you, cultivate you, and a man that can protect you. Accept a man whose attitude and mindset gives you peace of mind and it's the type you can live with for the rest of your life.

The goal is that a man choose a lady that's is teachable and lead-able in the common ground between the purpose of the man and the purpose of the lady. The goal is also is a lady accepting a man that is willing to accept help and support in the direction of his calling. In both ways, there must be self responsibility as the man is accountable for who he chooses and the lady is accountable for who she accepts for premarital relationship. There is more to share but here is all I can share at the moment. Shalom

Hope Expression Values You 
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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