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ARE YOU IN LOVE OR JUST ATTRACTED?

Attraction can make you notice someone, but discernment helps you understand whether that person is truly right for you. As a single person or someone dating, ask yourself what you are actually choosing. Are you choosing character, spiritual maturity, values, responsibility and purpose, or are you choosing how someone makes you feel? Proverbs 31:30 reminds us that beauty is not enough. What matters before God is the condition of the heart and reverence for Him. Learn to look beyond what attracts your eyes and pay attention to what reveals a person's character.

How do you choose with wisdom? Slow down and observe. Watch how the person communicates when they are angry, how they treat people who cannot benefit them, how they handle responsibility, how they respond to correction and whether their private life agrees with their public confession of faith. You are not called to approach relationships with suspicion, but you are called to exercise discernment. Do not allow chemistry to silence the questions that character is asking.

Why does this matter? Because feelings can be powerful without necessarily being accurate. You can feel deeply connected to someone and still be unequally yoked in faith, values, vision or purpose. Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Agreement does not mean that two people must be identical, but there should be meaningful alignment concerning Christ, values and direction. Ask yourself whether the relationship is helping you become more like Christ or gradually pulling you away from prayer, obedience, godly community and purpose.

Who should you be looking for, and when should you make serious decisions? Look for someone who is becoming spiritually mature, emotionally healthy, responsible, teachable and intentional about purpose. This does not mean looking for a perfect person. You are also growing. Look for evidence of genuine transformation and a willingness to grow. First Samuel 16:7 reminds us that God looks beyond outward appearance and sees the heart. Do not make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions. Give yourself enough time to see consistency, not just promises.

Where should your relationship be taking you? It should be taking both of you closer to Christ, stronger in character and clearer about purpose. Second Corinthians 6:14 reminds believers that spiritual alignment matters. A healthy relationship should create room for two people to love God, communicate honestly, grow individually and pursue their God given assignments. Singles and those dating, ask yourself honestly: Am I choosing this person because of who they are, or because of how they make me feel? Attraction may open the door, but wisdom must decide whether you should walk through it. Let the Holy Spirit guide your discernment, and let Jesus remain at the center of your relationship decisions.

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Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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