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You Don’t Need a Partner to Complete You

Beloved of God, the greatest asset I have discovered any adult or single must cultivate is self responsibility. If you can't be useful to yourself, thats on you. If you can't offer your self the chance to learn and fix what's going wrong with you, no body should be blamed for that. Lack of self responsibility is when you blame everyone for the the things that are failing in your life but you will never hold your self accountable for any of them. You see that posture, that's immaturity at it's highest peak.

If you have low self esteem, get help. If you have anger issues, learn emotional intelligence. Whatsoever that is missing or broken in your life, it's your full responsibility to seek for help and even submit to Jesus to help you. No body is meant to compensate you for all the wrongs your ex lover did to you. No body should be blamed for the consequences of your bad decision, disrespectful attitude and aggressive manner of approach. Stop blaming your past, stop blaming your mood, stop blaming your fears, worries and doubt. You are supposed to be healthy, loving, complete all by your self and by your effort before to step into any dating relationship.

A healthy premarital relationship is for two healthy people (male and female). It's for individual who are comfortable being single. It's for individual who is comfortable in their own skin without the desire to become some one else. It is for individual who have self value and knows the value of some ones effort in their lives. It's not for two perfect people but it is for two people who takes responsibility for their individual words, decisions and action without shifting blames on any one.

Relationship is not supposed to define your worth or self esteem. Absence of relationship does not mean you are inferior to any one and relationship does not imply you are superior to those that are single. You don't need anyone or relationship to feel complete.

You feeling complete is what Jesus alone can do. You are already complete in Christ Jesus - Colossians 2:9-10. No body can fill the void of Salvation in your life. No body can fill the void of the absence of purpose discovery. No body can fill the void of your inability to accept correction. No body can fill the void of the absence of a prayer life. No body can feel the void of the absence of respect for people. Your self responsibility is fully on you and relationship is a place for sharing the value you have already cultivated through God's personal dealing with you with this person you intend to date, court and marry.

If you are a foolish single, you will become a foolish lover and a foolish spouse. Dating or relationship won't fix what your self responsibility should fix. If you are an ungrateful single, you will become an ungrateful lover or spouse. Whatsoever is going on in your life, anything you are refusing to correct, improve or address will become what your partner will experience from you in dating or marriage.

You need Jesus to make you feel complete and you need self responsibility of applying the scriptures in your life to deal with everything going wrong in your life now to become the best God wants you to become to your life partner. You are supposed to bring peace, truth and a healed version of you into your next relationship or current relationship or future marriage. The first person to blame is you and the first person to hold accountable is your very self. Stop waiting for a lady or man stepping into your life and suddenly, all your irresponsibility will be fixed. It's never happening. The worse is you breaking up with your lover for not doing for you what you are meant to do for your self. No body owes you anything and when attention and love is shared with you, it's a previledge.

Hope Expression Values You 
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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