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Un-masking the past - Part 2

Why do you need to unmask the past?

If you are not ready to unmask the past, you will remain a slave to your past. You won't be able to identify why you failed the way you fail. You won't be able to maintain the pattern of success you had in the past. It because difficult for you to trace the source of any present issue, conflict, and negative experience. Unmasking the past is the best gift you can ever offer yourself.

You need to unmask the past, understanding your past is what dictates what to stop doing, what to start doing, what to change, and what to improve. It rescues you from blaming everybody while making excuses for your faults. Unmasking the past helps you not to repeat the same mistakes all over again. It reveals how you failed in other to know how to sit up in the present. It reveals how you succeeded and how to maintain that success.

Nobody in life, including me, has a smooth past. During a counseling session, a lady once told me. I have a past that I will never tell my husband till I die. Even thou it appears safer but you will never have peace of mind.

In dating, courtship, and marriage, NEVER HIDE YOUR PAST FROM ANYONE. If anyone dislikes you because of your past, they don't deserve the best in you. If you must respect yourself, respect your past, present, and future. If you must respect others, respect their past, present, and future. Never use the past of anyone as a weapon for attacking your lover or spouse during an argument. (You are immature doing that).

I want you to know as youths (single or married), your true respect for someone is revealed in the way you value, respect, and protect their privacy. Some information about your lover's past is meant for your ears alone....of which your siblings or parent must not know. Don't be talkative. Your personal affairs with your lover are different from your lover's affairs with your parents.
I believe that if any lady or man has built trust and respect for their inlaws to be, the inlaws handling any ugly past because easier... Although some parents and siblings can overreact. Nevertheless, any past that is about what you did in the past but is no longer a part of you again...should be talked about. Issues about health, childbearing, being a runs lady or hook-up man in the past...etc. should not be hidden. Cos the day your past jumps up at your lover or spouse in the future, in an unexpected location, every trust you have suffered to build will crash down.

Be free from your past. Reconcile with your past and drop every regret. Start living a life that will add value to your present and future... Instead of weeping over a past you can no longer change or control. IF YOU HAVE TO LIE TO ANYONE TO START A RELATIONSHIP OR SUSTAIN ANY RELATIONSHIP OR TO LOOK GOOD ENOUGH FOR ANYONE'S LOVE, ATTENTION, AND ACCEPTANCE...THEN YOU ARE NOT WALKING IN CHRIST.
[3/14, 8:32 PM] Prince Victor Matthew: God has forgiven you of your past. (Hebrews 8:12). Forgive your self and extend God's forgiveness to anyone whose past might offend or surprise you. This is the only way forward. Live in the present and stop dwelling in the past.

There are three identities of any human.

- Who they use to be.
- Who they are now.
- Who they will become in the future.

If you can't respect these three aspects of your life or anybody, please do not date or marry this individual. If you don't want to accept any aspect of these three identities as part of your journey in life, you are suffering from low self-esteem. NEVER BE ASHAMED OF WHAT CHRIST DELIVERED YOU FROM, WHERE HE PICKED YOU FROM, AND HOW HE HAS BROUGHT YOU THIS FAR INTO THE PRESENT. Some people will reject you but those God has ordained will love and accept you for the same reasons others are rejecting you.
Stop walking in your own shadow. Rise and walk boldly in the liberty Christ have obtained for your life. Unmasking your past is not a one-time action. It's a journey you keep doing till Jesus comes. Turn every one of your regrets, mistakes, and successes into a class room you will constantly be learning from and becoming the best God has ordained for your life.

Prince Victor Matthew 
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