0.2 The Ring
Relationship is the display of what you are capable of offering in the marriage. Its a dress rehearsal for the real deal. Its on a try and error or...a matter of...let's see how it goes.
Ladies, there is no point in accepting to date a man...you won't be ready or willing to accept His marriage proposal, when he shows up. Don't taste with your tongue...what you are not ready to bite with your teeth.
When a man propose to you...let him define the date for the real deal. It's usually minimum of (3) three months or maximum of (6) six month or (1) one year. Don't let any man tie you down with an engagement ring, when he is not certain about when he wants to get married to you. I am not saying he should have all the money before he proposes... No! He should be willing and determine of what he has planned first...even if the money is not there yet....Faith only respond to detailed and specific plan.
Ladies, the fact that he proposed you with a ring does not mean, he is entitled to having sex with you...even thou some ladies don't see it as a big deal, to have sex with a man that has proposed with a ring. Some ladies even use sex as a thank you...to the man that just proposed with the ring...THIS IS NOT GODLY.
The RING introduce COURTSHIP.. which is planning, setting goals, dealing with attitude issues, mindset, priority and values...fighting to bond in focus, and direction in life. The moment any of these is not happening in your courtship...address it for adjustment and if your lover is not ready...take a walk. Broken courtship is better than. broken marriage. Ladies, don't respect his ring, if he is not respecting you so well enough, to start planning and setting goals together.
Courtship is for talking to find out the following:
Intellectual Compatibility.
Financial Compatibility.
Emotional Compatibility.
Spiritual Compatibility.
Plans Compatibility.
Physical Compatibility.
The Ring is His commitment to you...and you being part of the plans he is setting for his future...is His own commitment to you. The Ring is not enough: both of you needs to be committed to planning together.... not just for the wedding... but for the marriage and the future you both are walking towards daily.
Expect conflicts and be ready to argue with your lover...with the mind of understanding your lover...and not with the aim of WINNING the argument. The Ring is not a trophy; its a call for work, responsibility, setting goals and planning.
Watch out for the part 3 of this series.
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