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THE ANTIDOT OF PAIN

The antidote of a snake bite is in the snake

The solution to your problem or relationship problem is within you.

ITS WITHIN YOU.

Are you looking for the cause of your relationship problems?

Look within yourself and you will find it. It is easier to blame people for treating you less yet you excuse your self of your own carelessness.

For every relationship problem, there is a mentality and attitude in you THAT IS SPONSORING IT. Don't focus on what people are doing to you, FOCUS ON WHAT YOU ARE DOING TO YOUR SELF.

Don't focus on the breakup but focus on where you failed. Your failure is what permitted some one else to insult you and take you for granted.... Its hard to know this because you don't have break up immediately you failed on your part...after your failure...it can even take you two months, or six month or two weeks because the consequences of your failure on your own part to begin to manifest.

When you switch off a fan, it won't stop automatically... It takes a process.

There is nothing like, I did not do any thing...he or she just broke up with me. At that moment, you didn't do any thing but what you don't know is, what you failed to do or what you should have not done that you did in the past is surfacing in the present.

You were careless, you were rude, you are inconsiderate...etc. All these weeks or Mont ago and you thought you are so smart to get away with it.....No! You must embrace the reward.

You don't appreciate what you lover do for you and he or she is silent....he or she is not a fool. When their patient hit the rock...breakup shows up.

He or she pets you and that is when you even nag, and become careless as if you are doing your lover a Favour by dating or marrying them. You have being doing this and you have being going away with it...when you will get your reward...it will even be in that day you are at your best behavior then the reward of your past carelessness you failed to deal with shows up!

Stop saying every man or lady I love keep leaving me... There is one attitude or mentality in you THAT SEEMS INNOCENT yet its the cause of your failure. The fact you don't think some thing is wrong does not make it right!

Before you blame people, BLAME YOURSELF FIRST.

The antidote to your frequent heartbreak is WITHIN YOURSELF. Its in that attitude or mentality that makes you feel, YOU CAN DO ANY THING YOU LIKE AND SAY ANY THING YOU LIKE. That mentality the says, no body has the right to correct you or tell you what to do. All you have held on to as the truth yet is not adding value to the people around you is ungodly.

Help yourself, and God will help your lover.
Admit your faults and God will help or restore your relationship.

Stop shifting blames on your lover, and God will help you and your lover improve

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