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Yellow Card (Warning Signal) - Part 2


But the queen Vashti refused to come at the king's commandment by his chamberlains: therefore was the king very wroth, and his anger burned in him.

YELLOW CARD – No 1

The first YELLOW CARD goes the sets of youths and teenagers who do not have a clue about their identity or purpose (Ignorance). For you to enjoy this salvation and relationship (platonic & emotional), you must come to a place of asking the Holy Spirit – WHO AM I? You will always be a victim of abusive relationship (platonic & emotional) if you do not know who you are and what you stand for in life. The major reason why youths and teenagers suffers in their walk with God and in relationship (platonic & emotional) is because 85% of them have no idea of who they are and what God has created them to stand for in life.

There is a misconception here – the first need of a youth or teenager is not love, money or fame or dating BUT self awareness. Self awareness is the function of who you are according to the definition of God’s word. Another name for it is purpose discovery. To succeed in life, you must know who you are and you must discover the true worth on the inside of you. The only way is you asking the Holy Spirit to teach and train you through the studying of the word of God.

Why did God create you? What is your passion? What are your gifts? What is your creativity? What do you like and why do you like them? What do you dislike and why do you dislike them? What course do you stand for in life? What are you willing to die for in this life? What is the “why” behind your existence?

Find the ‘why’ behind your existence through the studying of the word of God. Stop impressing people or people pleasing. It’s time to please the Lord. Stop ignoring your self development on the platform of relationship (platonic & emotional). Find yourself and be yourself – your self is not your own greed but the reality of what God has planned for you to become.

Vashti the queen lack the knowledge and understand of who is. If she knew, she could have obeyed the king – her husband. The first advantage of Esther over Vashti the queen was self awareness or purpose discovery.

But the queen Vashti refused to come at the king's commandment by his chamberlains: therefore was the king very wroth, and his anger burned in him.

YELLOW CARD – No 2

The second YELLOW CARD goes to the set of youths and teenagers that have embrace CARELESSNESS. These are the days you must understand that being a man do not in any way imply that ladies are inferior to you. Being a lady do not in any way mean men are inferior to you. One of the warning signals the Lord is giving is for youths and teenagers to start respecting gender difference. Being a lady is unique and being a man is unique. The same value God has for the man is what he has for the ladies. Our gender design might be different but our quality is the same.

You can’t just talk any how, joke any how, decide any how, and do what pleases you. Enough of you being careless. 

The Lord is giving his people YELLOW CARD because RESPECT is slowly shifting away from the relationship (platonic & emotional) people nurture these days. Stop comparing your self with the people around you. Your value is not determine by what you have and others do not have – your value is determine by you understanding and respecting the people that lack what you have - with the consciousness that these people also have some things you do not have. 

Disrespect from Vashti the queen to the king was a default on the queen because she lacked self development. No capacity or preparation. Disrespect is the manifestation of indiscipline or lack of a trained attitude, mindset and manner of approach. If you don’t know what God has created you to become, you will never respect your self. And if you don’t respect yourself, you will never respect the people around you.

But the queen Vashti refused to come at the king's commandment by his chamberlains: therefore was the king very wroth, and his anger burned in him.

YELLOW CARD – No 3

The third YELLOW CARD goes to the set of youths and teenagers that have embrace PRIDE. Irrespective of who you are and what you have achieved – you must come to a place of you acknowledging that God helped you. Don’t take the mercy of God for granted. Don’t deceive your self to believe all you have and all you’ve got were your strength. YOU ARE NOTHING WITHOUT GOD AND YOU ARE USELESS IF YOU ARE NOT OF HELP TO THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU. THE BEAUTY OF GREATNESS LIES IN YOUR ABILITY OF ADDING VALUE TO THE LIVES OF THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU.

Don’t let your beauty deceive you. Don’t let your salary deceive you. Don’t let the designer wear deceive you. Don’t let the expensive phones and designer perfume deceive you. Don’t let your family background to deceive you. No matter your uniqueness, you still need the people around you. Humble your self and acknowledge that the Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ helped you.

You don’t have to be rude to people because of your position and achievement. You don’t need to despise people for their failures; you succeed because God helped you – why are you behaving like it was your own effort that brought you were you are now?

Being a pretty and successful lady does not mean you have to be rude, disrespectful and disobedient to people around you. It doesn’t mean you should ignore the greeting attitude. Learn how to greet people politely. Be friendly and being friendly to men does not mean you are cheap. Being friendly to ladies does not mean you are weak. Being unfriendly makes you appear so cheap and weak because it displays your insecurity.

To be continued...


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