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When Love Hurts - Part 2



If we must go far with God and in relationship, we must learn to give attention to the “why?” instead of the “what?” The challenge is not the PAIN - the big question you must answer is “why did the PAIN come?”

Every PAIN is an assignment and that is the truth. The assignment is to stretch you, improve you or teach you. PAIN is not your enemy.

Salvation is a journey of transformation which involves the experience of PAIN and change. The ability for you to change your negative mindset to a Godly mindset will take you through PAIN.

Salvation is a platform where you must unlearn in other to learn afresh. This is a platform where you must un-believe in other for you to believe afresh. All these come with and through PAIN.

PAIN is part of the tools God uses in building you and preparing you. PAIN is meant to produce maturity in you. When your calling becomes a source of PAIN to you – look unto Jesus. When helping people puts you into trouble - look unto Jesus. When loving God becomes a reason for people to abandon you – look unto Jesus.  When saying no to sex before marriage becomes a reason for broken relationship - look unto Jesus. When your faith in God attracts hatred – look unto Jesus.

When you make the wrong decision and you are in PAINS – look unto Jesus. When your carelessness want to take the best part of you – look unto Jesus. Either you are right or wrong – look unto Jesus.

These are the days you must learn to depend on Jesus, knowing He is able. Don’t be wise in your own eyes. Don’t give up or give in. don’t let the struggle behind your dream or vision pull you down. Stop saying and thinking “I don’t have a choice” – You have a choice and God’s plan is your choice!

Don’t fall a victim of the deception. No human being is your enemy. Whatsoever that caused you PAIN, whatsoever that rejected you and broke your trust is not the problem. These people are just tools used. Give your attention to the wisdom behind the PAIN. Give attention to WHY God allowed the PAIN to come.

PAIN is a pointer to two kind of wisdom; 1. What you should have done that you failed to do. 2. What you should have not done that you did. It’s also points out what you have avoided that you embraced.

Wisdom lies in you giving attention to what the PAIN has to offer you instead of the discomfort that comes along with it (PAIN)

The PAIN or HURTS is not your greatest challenge. YOUR GREATEST CHALLENGE IS YOUR INABILITY TO LEARN AND ACCEPT THE CHANGE GOD WANTS YOU TO CREATE IN YOU.

PAIN or HURTS can EITHER KILL YOU OR GIVE YOU LIFE. If you embrace the lesson behind it, and the Godly change - YOU WILL GAIN LIFE. If you reject the wisdom and ignore the correction – YOU WILL LIVE IN STAGNATION. 

WHEN LOVE HURTS, improvement is available and PAIN comes in different phases and always come when necessary if you are ready to obey the instructions of the Holy Spirit.

Just the way PAIN teaches, comfort teaches too. It is God’s duty to know what is necessary at every stage of life.

WHEN LOVE HURTS simple means when God HURTS you (Isaiah 45:7). Just the way God blesses you, God also HURTS you.

God hurting you is when he permits events and people to hurt you in order for you to improve and become all He has planned for your life.

For Jesus to bring salvation to us all, the cross (PAIN and death) became the way forward. That was God hurting Him. (Romans 5:1 – 5) explains it all.

Most times, the only way forward to your next level will only come through PAIN. Stop fighting your ex LOVER, stop judging, finding faults and condemning people; focus on what God wants to use their attitude towards you to do.

“God is interested in healing you
but you must first learn the wisdom
in the HURTS and PAIN.”

There is something God is achieving in your life. Every situation, events, PAINS and HURTS are part of the tools God is using to achieve His plan in your life.

Forgive the people, forgive your self and look unto Jesus. Keep moving and with God’s instructions to you.

I can’t teach you every thing on this topic or subject. I hereby commit you into the hands of the Holy Spirit for him to teach and direct you.

May you learn the wisdom in the HURTS (PAIN) and may the Holy Spirit heal your HURTS in Jesus Name

Jesus loves you so much
 
Shalom!

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