Cohabitation before marriage has become increasingly common in today's world, but does that make it right in the sight of God? Many argue that living together before marriage helps couples understand each other better, but this mindset disregards the foundation of godly relationships. Hebrews 13:4 clearly states, "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." When a man and woman choose to live together outside of marriage, they dishonor the sanctity of marriage and invite unnecessary temptations that can lead to sin. If God intended for marriage to be a covenant before cohabitation, why do many believers compromise His standard?
For a woman, cohabiting with a man before marriage is a direct attack on her dignity and self-worth. Proverbs 31:10 says, "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies." A lady who moves in with a man before marriage gives away the honor that should be preserved for her husband. She risks being seen as a convenient partner rather than a treasured wife. If a man truly loves and respects a woman, shouldn’t he be willing to wait and commit to her honorably through marriage rather than testing her like an experiment? What does it say about a woman's self-value if she settles for less than the covenant God established?
For a man, cohabitation strips him of his privacy and leadership. A godly man is called to be a protector and provider, not someone who takes advantage of a woman outside of God's plan. 1 Corinthians 16:13 instructs, "Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong." When a man chooses to cohabit rather than commit, he fails to demonstrate the strength and responsibility required in a husband. He opens himself to unnecessary distractions, emotional burdens, and the dangers of an unstable relationship. Should a man not value his position as a leader enough to wait for the right time and build a marriage on a solid foundation?
Ultimately, choosing to cohabit before marriage is not just a personal decision—it is a spiritual compromise. It reflects a lack of trust in God’s design for relationships and marriage. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 reminds us, "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor." If God calls us to live in holiness and honor, why settle for a lifestyle that contradicts His will? Why trade temporary convenience for lasting regret? The beauty of marriage lies in its commitment, security, and divine blessing—why not choose God's way and wait for His best?
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