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Dating is Understudying

Kings and Queens, in a dating relationship, it’s important to pay attention to knowing and understanding the person you’re with. Take the time to see if their character, values, and lifestyle are things you would want for your future family. Amos 3:3 says, "Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" The person you date today could influence the life and future of your unborn children, so make sure you’re building something that aligns with the vision you have for your family.

At the same time, keep discovering yourself. As you grow in understanding your identity, purpose, and assignment, you will be better equipped to date someone who matches your values and direction in life. Proverbs 4:7 says, "Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding." When you know who you are and where God is leading you, it becomes easier to recognize the right kind of person who complements that journey.

Be intentional about the path you’re on in dating and relationships. Don’t rush or let pressure from others drive your choices—let God guide you. Psalm 32:8 reminds us, "I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you." Stay committed to building a relationship based on mutual understanding, love, and respect, rather than fleeting emotions.

Remember, marriage is a journey, not just a destination, so prepare for it with care. Walk closely with God as He helps you make the right decisions along the way. As Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." With intentionality and wisdom, you’ll be positioned for a relationship that honors God and brings lasting joy.

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