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Marriage: A Covenant, Not a Contract

In today’s world, it’s easy to see marriage as a contract—a formal agreement between two people that can be dissolved if things don’t go as planned. However, God’s design for marriage goes much deeper. Marriage is a covenant, not just a contract. It’s a sacred promise, rooted in faith, love, and commitment, with God as the center. A covenant marriage is built on unconditional love, not on conditions or circumstances.

God designed marriage to be a reflection of the relationship between Christ and His church (Ephesians 5:25-27). Just as Christ loves the church with a sacrificial and unbreakable love, marriage is meant to mirror this covenant—one that is based on love, trust, and an eternal commitment. Unlike a contract, which can be broken when the terms are not met, a covenant is a lasting promise that endures, even when it’s challenging.

The purpose of marriage goes beyond companionship. God established marriage to fulfill three key purposes: partnership, growth, and reflecting Christ’s love. Marriage is about two individuals partnering together, sharing life’s journey, and supporting one another in the calling God has placed on their lives. It’s a commitment to walk through life together, for better or worse, as each person grows in character, love, and spiritual maturity. Proverbs 27:17 reminds us, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." In marriage, this sharpening is continuous, as both partners help each other become more Christlike.

But marriage is also about growth—both personal and spiritual. When two people come together in marriage, they are given the opportunity to grow through their love, forgiveness, patience, and grace. It’s in this lifelong journey that God shapes us into the image of Christ. Through the trials and joys of marriage, we are challenged to reflect His love, not just to each other, but to the world around us.

Marriage is a testimony of God’s faithfulness and love. It’s meant to reflect how Christ loves His church—with a love that is patient, kind, and sacrificial (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). As a covenant, marriage requires more than just feelings; it requires a decision to love daily, to forgive quickly, and to serve selflessly, just as Christ does for His people.

To redefine marriage in light of scripture is to understand that it’s not based on emotions or circumstances, but on God’s eternal principles. Our culture may treat marriage lightly, but the Bible calls us to a higher standard. In Malachi 2:14, God Himself witnesses the covenant made in marriage, and He warns against treating it carelessly. Marriage is a sacred union that should reflect the holiness and commitment that God has towards us.

As singles, it’s important to view marriage with this understanding—that it’s not about finding someone to meet all your needs, but about committing to a lifelong partnership that honors God. It’s about becoming someone who is prepared to love sacrificially, to grow in grace, and to reflect the covenant love of Christ to your future spouse.

Approach marriage with the mindset that it is God’s design for growth, partnership, and reflecting His love, not a contractual agreement based on convenience. When we embrace this truth, we enter into marriage not with the expectation of it being perfect, but with the understanding that it’s a divine opportunity to grow, to serve, and to be an expression of Christ’s love in the world.

Hope Expression celebrates you. 

Prince Victor Matthew 

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