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Are You About to Marry the Wrong Person? These Questions Could Save Your Future

Choosing the right person is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. Attraction may capture your attention, but godly wisdom protects your future. Proverbs 3:5 to 6 reminds you to trust in the Lord with all your heart and not lean on your own understanding. Before you give someone access to your heart, ask yourself, Have I truly sought God's direction, or am I allowing loneliness, pressure, or emotions to make this decision? A relationship that begins without God's guidance often struggles to experience God's peace.

Amos 3:3 asks, "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" Agreement goes beyond shared hobbies or physical attraction. It includes your faith, values, purpose, convictions, and vision for the future. Ask yourself, Are we growing closer to Christ together or pulling each other away from Him? Can we resolve conflict with humility? Do we genuinely respect one another? The right person will not only love you but will also encourage you to become the person God has called you to be.

Pay attention to the fruit of the relationship instead of the feelings alone. Does this relationship produce peace or constant confusion? Does it strengthen your prayer life or weaken it? Does this person honor your boundaries, speak truth with love, and demonstrate consistent character? A godly relationship is built on trust, honesty, accountability, and mutual commitment to Christ. The right person will not be perfect, but they will be willing to grow, repent, forgive, and pursue God alongside you.

If you are single or dating, do not rush because others are getting married. God's timing is never late, and His choice is always worth waiting for. Pray sincerely, seek wise counsel, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide your heart. The greatest question is not, "Have I found the right person?" but rather, "Am I becoming the right person according to God's Word?" When two people are fully surrendered to Jesus Christ, they are far more prepared to build a relationship that reflects His love and brings Him glory.

Hope Expression Values You.
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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