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Finding Your Self First As Singles.

Beloved, do not chase dating or romantic attention when you lack clarity about your purpose, calling, and direction in life. Entering relationships without understanding who you are and where God is taking you often leads to confusion, compromise, and heartbreak. Your heart, time, and energy are precious, and they deserve alignment with God’s plan for your life.

Singles, your season of preparation is not a waiting room for love—it is a training ground for destiny. God wants you to know yourself, your values, and the assignment He has placed on your life before you invest in someone else. Pursuing love without this foundation is like building on sand; it may feel exciting, but it cannot endure the storms of life and ministry.

Understanding your purpose also equips you to recognize partners who are aligned with God’s plan for you. It protects you from distractions, unhealthy attachments, and relationships that derail your calling. Your heart must first be settled in God’s truth so that your relationships can reflect His wisdom and not your unmet desires.

Scripture reminds us in Proverbs 19:21, Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. Let this truth guide your season: pursue God and your calling first, and the right relationship will follow in alignment with your divine destiny.

Prince Victor Matthew 

Hope Expression Values You 

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