If you are single or currently in a premarital relationship, this season is not a waiting room for marriage but a training ground for wholeness. As a man or a woman, what you are becoming now will determine the kind of relationship you will sustain later. Love is not proven by how fast emotions grow but by how well your values, convictions, and purpose align. God uses this season to heal your heart, shape your character, and teach you how to love without losing yourself.
Many relationships struggle because both men and women enter love expecting their partner to fix what only God can heal. A man may desire respect but has not learned responsibility. A woman may desire security but has not learned emotional stability. Healthy relationships are built when both genders take ownership of their growth. Love works best when two whole people choose each other, not when two wounded people cling to each other out of fear of loneliness.
Premarital relationships are meant to reveal alignment, not just affection. Pay attention to how conflicts are handled, how boundaries are respected, and how God is honored in decisions. A relationship that constantly pressures you to compromise your values is not preparing you for marriage, it is preparing you for pain. Scripture reminds us, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” Proverbs 4:23. Guarding your heart does not mean closing it, it means leading with wisdom.
Dear reader, whether you are a man learning how to lead with love or a woman learning how to love with wisdom, God is intentional about your journey. Do not rush what requires discernment. Do not ignore red flags because of emotions. Love is safe, love is honorable, and love grows in truth. This season can become the foundation for a peaceful marriage if you choose growth over pressure and purpose over panic.
Assessment Questions
As a man or a woman, what personal wounds or unhealthy patterns do you need God to heal before committing to marriage?
Does your current relationship help you grow closer to God and your purpose, or does it constantly pull you away from both?
Prince Victor Matthew
Hope Expression Values You
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