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Youths and the Danger of Being Overapologetic

As a youth, whether single or dating, you must understand that apology is not male or female. It is not a role assigned to the quiet one in the relationship. It is not the responsibility of the one who fears losing the connection. Whoever is at fault should apologize. Responsibility is not based on gender, personality, or who loves more. It is based on truth. When you begin to apologize for everything, even what you did not do, you slowly lose your voice and your self respect.

Many young people become overapologetic because they are afraid of conflict. You may say sorry just to keep the peace. You may admit wrong even when you are not wrong, simply to avoid tension. But peace built on false guilt is not real peace. It is silent oppression. Over time, this creates imbalance. One person keeps apologizing while the other keeps excusing their behavior. That pattern is not love. It is emotional manipulation disguised as harmony.

The Bible teaches in Ephesians 4:15 that we should speak the truth in love. Truth and love must walk together. If you apologize when you are not at fault, you are not practicing love. You are empowering a toxic attitude. You are teaching the other person that they can avoid accountability. That does not help them grow, and it does not protect your emotional health. Real love corrects, confronts, and communicates with honesty.

If you are single, build the confidence to know when you are wrong and when you are not. Do not carry blame that does not belong to you. If you are dating, create a culture of mutual accountability. Both of you must be willing to admit faults. Do not let anyone escape responsibility, and do not force yourself to carry what is not yours. Healthy relationships are built on shared maturity, not one sided apologies. When you refuse to be overapologetic, you are choosing balance, self respect, and a love that is rooted in truth.

Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

Hope Expression Values You 

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